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message from heaven

message from heaven by hep
message from heaven, a photo by hep on Flickr.

because i haven't posted this pic in awhile, and for once i am not busy for THREE WHOLE DAYS and can do things like reply to lj comments in a timely fashion!

The problem with LJ: we all think we are so close, but really, most of us don't know very much about each other. So I want you to ask me something you think you should know about me. Something that should be obvious, but you have no idea about. Ask away.

All answers will be screened if you want to ask anything super personal.

Tell me about how / why you married Roger and how it worked out to be the way it is today!

Which, by the way, is awesome- the way it is. But I don't know the story.
we worked ren faire together as kids/teens and dated right after i broke up with cj. i wanted to date someone more social, who felt more like a partner rather than someone i had to mother. we did well together, but had a lot of friction due to our personalities. you know me, i do NOT take criticism well, and unfortunately at the time, and even sometimes now, roger can be, or come off as, very critical. eventually when zane was 6mo old we decided to see other people (the plan was to eventually divorce if things couldn't work out, but we are both lazy/busy and it ends up being easier this way in regards to insurance, kids' school, stuff like this hospital where, while i love my mom, i don't want to put her in the position of power of attorney over me) because we were just fighting 100% of the time. it works out far far better for us to be friends, whenever he is critical (and usually its without meaning to be, you know how that can be), i don't take it super crazy personal like i did when we were together. we still love each other very much, but in more of an extremely close platonic bond. i really wish he could find someone to date who appreciates him, he is a fucking awesome guy, i am just too ~sensitive~ to be in a relationship with him. it turns out i really DO need someone i can mother hehe!
hahaha! yeah he's super harsh but you can tell its just him. that can be so hard. but he's such a great dad !